I remember when I first got married everyone was like "YAY! When are you gonna get pregnant?" I just don't get that school of thought. Why does my being married mean that I have to immediately procreate? Oddly, enough I wanted to get to know my husband, strengthen our marriage and relationship as a whole with Kevin, get to know my new life and role as a wife, make peace with the Army, finish school, travel about, start a career and generally just live more of my life prior to it being taken over by my babies. That's my take. I do not feel there is anything wrong with having children right away.. just didn't feel it was for me.
When did you have your baby(s)? Did you wait? Did you get on the ball immediately?
Share why!
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Well as you know, the babe was a surprise. But we were married well over 5 years at the time of finding out, and really had no intentions of getting pregnant soon. We are very excited...but seriously...take your time and enjoy your hubby! We had so much fun & truly enjoyed all of the time we had together :)
I was 27 when we got married. All my friends were married with kids way before me! My husband is in the Navy so they are on a sea/shore rotation. Well, shore duty consists of them being around for 3 years instead of deployed. We decided to have our first child rather quickly because my husband would be around and I wouldn't be doing it all by myself. We were married in January 2007 and our son was born December 2008. We were very lucky that it didn't take us long to get pregnant. Within 4 months of trying, I was prego. Not that you seem like the type, but don't let others influence you! It's a huge step for you as a mom and your relationship! Good luck!
Amen!! lol I get asked about once a week when we are going to have babies. We've been together for almost 7 years and there are some people in our families that have assumed we don't want kids. It's so annoying and I don't understand either why people think that marriage=babies right away. My husband and I wanted to have a life and get our college degrees before we have kids. Glad to know there's someone out there besides me who thinks that way. ;)
Wow, I was just about to write a blog soon about the reasons we are not choosing to have kids in the near, or maybe even distant, future...
You've taken some of the words right out of my mouth!
and I'm in the same boat. I feel like the only married Army wife without kids. I guess we're kindred spirits!
Amen!
And we're 25 and aren't planning on having kids for 5 years. So more power to you on doing what is best for you and Kevin!
I completely agree. I'm 25 (husband's 32), and we have been married for almost 2 and a half years. We still have no desire to have children whatsoever. We're actually debating not having any at all. Anyway, I think whatever works for the couple is fine!
We have been married four years. We wanted a little more financially stability before we decided to have a baby. Sometimes I have baby fever, sometimes not. Hopefully we will be on the bandwagon soon.
I DO read your blog everyday, but I am not worried about reading about a new grandchild via your blog, because I know I would receive a phone call! (hint...lol) I had my babies quickly and was done having the 4th (Kevin) by the time I was 28. I loved having them young and growing up with them..(I am still growing up) I did envy my friends who waited because they had time with their husbands and were able to do alot of thing besides bottles and diapers. But looking back, it was the best route for me to take and now i have the time with my husband while still (somewhat) young, at least young at heart. There is no "right" way for this decision. Just follow your heart and do what is best for you. I do know alot of people who are having kids in their 40's...that sounds just like too much work for me...You will know when it is right. Children enrich your life in ways you won't even realize..
regarding "baby fever", for me that still comes and goes from time to time, especially when I see newborns....but for me that is not an option and I can enjoy being a "grandma"
love you
your momma in law
I'm 28, my husband is 25 and we are not planning on having kids any time soon. Even though we are both finished with college and graduate school and pilot training (for him) we just don't desire little ones at this time.
I get a little upset when people we barely know constantly ask if I'm pregnant or when I plan on becoming pregnant. It only gets worse when they start lecturing me about getting older, blah, blah, blah.
-Missy
you probably know all of this already, but I was 25 when hannah was born, married just a little over 4 years. I hated the people asked the *second* we were hitched. And I am glad that we waited awhile to get to know each other. Only you know when you are ready.
Cookie was planned. D was home from a 15 month deployment and we had a good two years of down time, so we decided it would be a good time to have a baby. And this one, well that was a happy surprise :)
I'm 28 & have been married for 5 1/2 yrs & still dont have kids. It was a decision on both of our parts, we wanted to just be a "married couple" for a couple of years. Just recently we've been weighing having a baby or not, sometimes I just dont think it's for me but we'd love to adopt. Only time will tell I guess :)
I feel the same way you do! We are hoping to not have a child for another 5 years but if it happens well then it happens!
Well... I didn't even get married until I was 32 so, of course, all my friends were already ahead of me there. I just have my first baby at 34 so you could say I waited until I was good and ready (translate = mature enough) to have kids.
I don't have a baby and I'll be 27 next month! However, I'm not married and have no prospects. I just get the, "Don't you want to get married and have children" question.
You are not alone love! I'm 28, been married for 8 years and am very happy to only have ONE child. Plenty for now! ;o) We'll see how we feel about number two after a year of submarine training and our first deployment...
I waited! I served my country, jumped out of planes, lived my life before I bought 2 other lives into this world and I am SO glad I did!!! No regrets!!!!
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