Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Insight into myself

I don't have to prove that I'm a good person to you, or you... or you over there. I know it. I know it because  I have the love and support of dear friends that would do anything for me. Not to mention my family and my husband who've yet to fail me and are always there.

I can't please everyone all the time. I can only hope that people won't be so hasty in the future to assume I'm a horrible person... yet to take my words at face value, and going forward will consider my entire post (and all the words making it up) prior to commenting on only one part that was more than likely taken out of context (not considered with the rest of the information provided either in the sentence/paragraph/or entire post). I say what I say (as most people do, unless they're lying) because it's my life experience. I face every experience and encounter with a positive attitude, because I've found that I receive better results going into things with that out-look versus a negative "everyone sucks" or "I'll get nothing from this" or "it won't be successful for me" attitude.

I'm here to help. I'd give you the shirt off my back if I could, the last dollar in my wallet if you truly needed it. I'll also, (always, without fail) offer you a practical, real-life idea that could potentially help you... I'm logical and real. It's how I roll.

Please don't assume that in sharing my experiences that I am short-sighted enough to believe what works/ed for me will help everyone 100% of the time. Shouldn't a good friend share things with the people in their lives that've been successful for them? Kinda what I thought.

I'll leave you with one of my all time favorite quotes:

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
Eleanor Roosevelt

Happy Wednesday all!! Today, all I want... is for people to give others the benefit of the doubt. :)

6 comments:

Mr. Superman & Mrs. S. said...

I adore that quote!

Lin said...

Great post :)

Angie said...

I think you're a fabulous person and I love that you tell it like it is!!

Erin said...

You tell the truth, or at least your honest opinion. That is hard for some people to deal with. But don't let people that don't get you, change you.

Unlikely Wife said...

I wouldn't call you a horrible person at all. But you can't possibly think that anything you said about the situation with Jessica and the outcry about it was positive. Even going back to what you said in your "Day 36" post, about not judging and giving your opinion in a sympathetic manner- well, that wasn't there. You had to explain it later on to be clear that you didn't think you sounded as harsh as you did. I'm sure you're a great person, but that part of your post wasn't great. And it's type, on a blog.- words are only face value. If you don't want them to be, think about it a little further and how just your words will appear. I wasn't prepared to read that, and had I known it was going to be so negative I wouldn't have. I don't believe in pissing on other people's blogs, and I hope you don't think that is what this is.
This post today is a wonderful post. It shows a much nicer side of you. Up until yesterday I really enjoyed reading what you had to say.

Samantha the ArmyWife said...

I do think that I what I said about people intruding on Jessica's pain, trying to make it their own was positive. For people to sit there and pretend that what Jessica went through would somehow automatically be apart of their own lives ("it could've been me") then going on to state that all they had in common with Jessica was being a Military Spouse, is absurd. Then I provided options to people who do have real struggles with mental illness, because they were easy to access as well as effective for me.

I mean I shouldn't really have to break it down it's all written out. It's despicable for people to infringe on Jessica's strife. The support she received (which I was apart of) was amazing. I never said that Jessica was in some way shape or form "wrong" because she hadn't properly exercised the options available to her. All of that was assumed.

Again, I think you missed the point. But that's cool. I know what my truth is. I know that I didn't say anything wrong, in fact I said more than once how I empathized with Jessica but that seems to have been over looked. I know that sometimes I read through things the first thing I often misinterpret them or misread sentences which drastically changes the meaning of things.

I also hope that going forward, as I said in my post you'll give people and their words the benefit of the doubt and not be so quick to assume people are being nasty, short-sighted, unsympathetic or callous.