Saturday, July 11, 2009

What?? Why??

Okay, so yesterday I sent out a mass text to some of my homies that have known my sister and are intrigued about the happenings of her life as well as mine- to let them know that she was having another baby. While everyone did offer their congratulations to my sister and to me for becoming an "Auntie" again. I also had quite a few people asking when I was going to be making my sister an "Auntie"...?

FIRST: I am the one and only "AUNTIE"... :-p umm currently and I'm not keen on sharing that anytime soon. But, Sis, we can discuss your title whenever I should happen to jump on the bandwagon.

SECOND: Why... I truly do not understand why just because my sister is having her children now that means that I have to have mine now. While I have tossed around the idea of having babies sooner rather than later this is my discussion to make with my husband. Why am I feeling the pressure to procreate from people based on the fact that my sister is? Don't get me wrong I'm not mad at anyone but I just don't understand why people would automatically assume that I am going to have kids now or soon because my sister is.... maybe I'm the one who's screwed it up (in some way). Maybe I'm just supposed to do it because all the cool kids are? ugh... just leave me alone people. Be happy for my sis but that doesn't have anything to do with my timetable for procreating!

THIRD: *a lil' change in subject* Why do some women complete swap out their wedding rings? I understand changing the setting a little bit, but I mean why replace it completely? Doesn't that lose some meaning or at least the sentiment that goes along with the original? I know that we are not always in the position to buy our dream rings when we get married... but THAT ring it's a symbol of more than your budget... Be proud of what you have and appreciate (more than) it's (monetary) value.


(...my ring (:..)

6 comments:

d.a.r. said...

Agreed with you on the ring thing. It was this engagement ring he proposed with. It was this band that he slid on my hand as we said our vows, this band that was blessed by the priest, this band that I waved around as an excited new bride.

That being said, I do want another band for the other side of my engagement ring :)

Megan said...

I totally understand about the baby thing. I have had people asking us about it even before we got married. lol

Your ring is beautiful! I don't get why people change it either, I might get a bigger diamond for the center but that's as far as I would go.

Crazy Shenanigans said...

I agree on both of these subjects. Why is it when siblings or close friends start having babies everyone expects you to jump on the wagon as well? I don't get it! Also I agree, keep the ring you stared with. Yes you can get more but always wear the original!

Lauren B. said...

omg yes! even though i would love a bigger diamond, i just couldnt bear to part with mine...

Mrs. G.I Joe said...

I get this question a lot too! Especally from my own family:p I guess its just them being curious about when you might want one, so they can be happy for you too? Not sure! I LOVE LOVE LOVE my ring so I would never want to change it...I didn't even know you could do that:p

my life isnt easy but its the only one i got said...

This is the hubby I know I don't comment often but I do read all of what you girls have to say every day. Every one knows that I want to have kids. But I also respect my wife enough to wait it out until she feels ready also. I think that it shouldn't be a question of when or why but just be happy for us and in our up bringing that we are mature and smart enough to know when the time is right for us. I am great full that my wife is this type of persona and know that kids with her is worth the wait. Babe I am here and I am not going any where. When ever you are ready to have our children you just let me know. I love you